The Different Seasons Of Singlehood

THE DIFFERENT SEASONS OF SINGLEHOOD

THE SEASON OF REJECTION
This season is painful because the one you like or have been loving may choose not to be with you. This season closses doors meant to be closed to prepare you for a better door. Sometimes breakups and rejections are a blessing
THE SEASON OF SEPARATION
This season will make you feel lonely, but it is an important season so that you learn to be with yourself. Some people have never been properly single. This season takes you away from the noise to work on yourself
THE SEASON OF FORGIVENESS AND CLEANSING
This is the season of letting go, of forgiving those who have hurt you – be it your parents, friends, a romantic partner. It is also the season to forgive yourself for the pain you have caused others or the bad decisions you have made. This cleansing season is important
THE SEASON OF SELF-REALIZATION
This is the season of self-discovery, you get to know more about yourself, the more you know, the more you love yourself. You fall in love with you, before you fall in love with another
THE SEASON OF SELF-ACTUALIZATION
This is the season of advancing yourself. You do things for you – you travel, go to school, go to the gym, advance your career, study. This season is about achieving your goals and growing yourself as an individual
THE SEASON OF EXTERNAL PRESSURE
This is the season of people around you putting pressure on you to get married. If you manage this season well, you will avoid making bad choices
THE SEASON OF INTERNAL PRESSURE
This is the season where you put pressure on yourself. It can make you become desperate and you can rush people into being with you, thus scaring them. If you don’t watch out, this season can easily make you insecure and moody
THE SEASON OF BUILDING FRIENDSHIPS
This is the season of you realizing there are other relationships besides romantic ones, you start to go out to meet friends. You go for hikes, road trips, friendship dates, movies, visits and travel with friends. This is healthy
THE SEASON OF TEMPTATIONS
This is the season where you will get different potentials coming your way, some you will know outright they are not good for you but you will be tempted to entertain them because you can. Singles make the worst decisions during this season. Have self-control
THE SEASON OF PLATONIC RELATIONS
This is the season of mingling with those of the opposite gender on a friendship level. You are not leading anyone on but just catching up and doing non sexual activities together to understand the opposite gender. This will help you understand your future spouse
THE SEASON OF MARRIAGE PREPARATION
This is the season where you study about marriage, you work on yourself to be a good spouse. You are a husband/wife in the making
THE SEASON OF DISCERNMENT
This is the season of testing the spirit of those you connect with. You may have a potential or potentials but you don’t rush till you discern they are not only good for you, but right for you
THE SEASON TO COMMIT
This is the season of no wasting time but being intentional. You have discerned the right one, you commit and embark on building a strong foundation for marriage together.