
Our wedding is very close. When I say close I mean very close but Iβm already thinking twice about the turn of events.
He wanted to marry me last two years when I had no job. I declined and told him I would love to do something for myself first. God being so good, I landed a job that was everything I prayed for. He came to me again asking us to get married. Again I said no, βAt least, let me work and save something first.β
He didnβt like the idea. He thought I was using delay tactics so I could marry another man. I assured him of my undying love and put in a lot of effort to assuage his fears. This year, right from January he started fixing dates and telling me it was non-negotiable. I accepted whatever he said.
We met my people, did the knocking, got the list and started buying the things on the list. He took three months to get everything. I was even teasing him that he was really in a hurry to carry me home.
Then came the hour when we had to come together to plan the wedding. My man told me, βYouβre going to take the cost of everything that has to do with you so I also take the cost of things that have to do with me.β
This is what he meantβ¦
1. Iβm going to buy my own gown.
2. Iβm going to buy my own ring.
3. Iβm going to pay for the decor.
4. Iβm going to pay for the cost of food and drinks for the traditional wedding since they are coming to my house.
5. Iβll pay for the music theyβll play during the traditional wedding.
I asked, βYouβre joking right? When did you cease to be the man? The future head in whose name we are getting married?β
He told me he had already spent so much getting the items on the list and a lot would also go into the wedding reception and heβs going to take all that. Itβs therefore fair for me to take all the things he had listed. When I argued he told me, βBut youβre working now. What are you going to do with the money you said you were saving?β
He doesnβt want to change his stand. To me, itβs a waving red flag so I want to back out of the wedding. In our last conversation, he made it very clear to me that he was the man so I had to listen to him. He knows what heβs doing and he knows the results heβs seeking to get so I should keep calm and do as he says.
Thatβs alright but Iβm not going to do that. I would rather do what my heart tells me and follow the path my head is directing me and take a bow before itβs too late. Do you think Iβm making a good decision? I have only a few weeks to decide. Please help.
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